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You Make Me Want to Puke!:
Maarten van den Driest Responds


[Posted on October 16, 2000]

Greetings:

My deepest apologies for the fact that we make you want to puke. We have our own private place on the Internet, expressing who we are and proclaiming our faith in Jesus Christ, our Saviour. It saddens me that you take offense at our very existence. Allow me to ask you a question: Do you think Jesus would have written us such a letter?

I have - as many of my sisters and brothers here - studied the Holy Bible for years. I know the texts. In fact, taken literally, you are breaking 1 Timothy 2:12 in lecturing me. (Verses 11 and 12 say clearly: "11 Let the woman learn in silence with all subjection. 12 But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence.") If you think God's word is so very clear and literally true then tell me why you speak out on religious matters as a woman to a man?

Let's explore other verses and the issue of taking the Bible literally. Exodus 20:13, for example: "Thou shalt not kill." One of the Commandments, very clear. Then what about standing armies? Will you defend yourself against an attacker to the point of killing him? I do not say other verses do not clarify the matter, because they do, but we have a single sentence here. The Commandment does not specify. Do I take it literally or not?

Have you ever in your life worshipped another god than the one true God? Have you ever in your life done something out of egotism, out of avarice? Have you ever held a grudge? Did you ever lie? Then you have broken His Commandments and His entire law. I repeat, if you take the Bible so seriously, where do you get the idea that you can lecture others?

I take pity on your brother. I do not know why he is a crossdresser or how exactly. I do know there are many forms of crossdressing. One is for fun (drag queens and such) and another is because of transsexuality (man feels he actually should be a woman - or the other way around - and wants to act it). The first one is to me, frankly, not serious enough to worry over. Deut. 22:5 is a ritual rule, whether you CAPITALIZE it or not, and no longer in force for Christians who are saved by Grace. The main point of the verse is to stop the people of Israel from worshipping other gods. Those people of Israel don't exist anymore and neither do any of us worship fertility deities. Transsexuality is a big issue that definitely will not be solved by screaming Bible verses. Some good psychological help can often do a lot towards an integrated life.

I fear your brother is going through a terrible time since there are people around him who say they love him dearly and then go and shout insults to other Christians. How exactly do you show your love to him? Have you ever asked him why he does what he does? If he is addicted to women's clothing or if he just likes it? Whether he thinks he is a man or a woman? Have you ever told him you will love him no matter what? Jesus does that. Quite clearly.

Of course 'Satan knows the word of God inside out'! I could say the same to you and we'd still be nowhere. It is an empty slogan. You use it only to discredit people without having to pay for it. Why do you make Satanists out of us? Why do you suffer so much? Can we share in your pain? Can we in some way reach out to you and show you our love?

I do not know what you are referring to precisely when you mention eunuchs but the sparse verses about eunuchs sometimes have a ring to them that gay and lesbian people can identify with. We also 'cannot marry'. Why? Not because we do not want to or because there is something wrong with our testicles but because people like you force us into a life of loneliness, despair, ridicule, hate and suffering. Gay and lesbian people are simply men and women who have a preference concerning love, intimacy and sex for the same gender. The love is the same! The connections are the same! I know. I have been in a gay relationship over two years. It sadly broke up because so-called Christians had put such a pressure on my boyfriend that he could not cope. I have forgiven the church for that. I have forgiven my ex-boyfriend for everything. Now why can you not find it in yourself to forgive us - who have done nothing to you - for existing?

I leave you with these words:

"For I am certain that not death, or life, or angels, or rulers, or things present, or things to come, or powers, Or things on high, or things under the earth, or anything which is made, will be able to come between us and the love of God which is in Christ Jesus our Lord." Romans 8:38-39

"But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, a quiet mind, kind acts, well-doing, faith, gentle behavior, control over desires: against such there is no law." Galatians 5:22-23

May God have mercy on your soul, too.

Brightest Blessings,

Maarten