We Are the Ones We've
Been Waiting For
As many of you know, I usually share my thoughts in print through my
biweekly editorial column in the Asheville Citizen-Times. So I appreciate
the opportunity to be with all of y'all tonight to talk about what I
consider to be a fundamental shift in our cultural paradigm, a
transformation involving tens of millions of Americans taking place just
beneath the radar of the mainstream media.
Around three decades ago I traveled from Tennessee to Washington, D.C. to
join a protest against the war in Vietnam. My housing had been pre-arranged;
the group I was traveling with would be staying with a family of Quakers.
The weather that weekend in November tested our resolve: bone-chilling
temperatures and a strong wind out of the north. Nonetheless, we marched, we
sang, half a million strong we came together confidently in common cause.
Late on the final day of that
weekend, my brother-in-law, Johnny, and I found ourselves with a group of
militant activists at the Justice
Department. I was caught up in the excitement of the moment-until the D.C.
police started discharging tear gas canisters into the crowd. We beat a
hasty retreat, doing our best, but failing, to avoid the asphyxiating gases
around us. Later, as I sat excitedly recounting the tale of the
confrontation, I noticed a troubled glance from the elderly man whose
hospitality we were enjoying, not disapproving, but gravely concerned. Years
later I would remember that expression as I read the words of Marianne
Williamson: "I am of a generation, which thought that we could bring peace
to the world, and we didn't think it mattered if we ourselves were angry.
What we learned is that an angry generation cannot bring peace."
Sometimes I'm certain that the Apocalypse is upon us. My chicken hawk
president and our compliant Congress are shipping other folks' kids (but
certainly not their own) to Iraq to kill for peace. The airwaves are awash
with politicians who claim they care about you and me, but most only seem
interested in advancing their political careers. Elected officials dole out
billions in corporate welfare while company officers make out like bandits
and ship jobs overseas. The Patriot Act, passed after 9/11, is supposed to
protect us from terrorists, yet many fear it leads us down the slippery
slope toward fascism.
The Asian Brown Cloud, a thick
haze of pollution two miles thick and seven times the size of India, is hovering
over southern Asia, and the lives of
millions are threatened. Eight hundred million people around the world go to
bed hungry each night, and 24,000 die. Seventy-eight million acres of
rainforest are destroyed annually, and 50,000 plant and animal species
become extinct. The United States spends over a billion dollars every day on
the military while one of every five children in the U.S. lives in poverty.
Similar to the Titanic, our planet is rapidly approaching its "iceberg," our
physical limits to growth, yet our elected leaders seem content to merely
rearrange the chairs on the deck.
What then can we do to keep a level head and a loving heart in the midst of
all this madness? How can we hope to bring about a more compassionate, just
and sustainable world?
For sometimes the temptation is great to turn away, to proclaim there is
nothing that one person can do, to become cynical, to go into denial about
the need to do anything, to go back to sleep. But once we have awakened, is
unconsciousness ever really an option?
I believe that each of us comes into the world utterly whole, inherently
worthy, entirely blameless. And I believe that each of us, as we mature and
become more conscious, deeply longs to make a positive difference in the
world. Now, we may lose sight of that along the way. One may come to believe
that the road to fulfillment is through the accumulation of lots of stuff-a
fancy car, a bigger house, or tailored clothing. Or one may think that
finding the perfect romantic partner will bring contentment (it might help).
Or a great job and status in the community may appear to be the Holy Grail.
But even if we achieve these things (or other similar goals), all too
frequently there is still a sense that something is not complete, some
element of life is missing.
Consciously or unconsciously,
each of us helps to create the world we live in-day-by-day, hour-by-hour,
moment-by-moment. Every thought in our minds,
every word we speak, every action we take makes a difference in our world.
So then, the question is not "How can I make a difference?" The question is
"What kind of difference do I choose to make?" If you choose to act out of
love-smiling at the baby in the grocery cart in the long checkout line or
contributing money, food, or clothing to folks in need-you help to create
one kind of world. If you choose to react out of fear-snarling at the person
in the slow-moving car in front of you or clinging to all of your material
wealth for dear life-you help to create another kind of world.
Many of us look around today and see a world in disarray. Many of us believe
that our leaders have failed us. But the truth is, my friends, that the
situation around us is our creation. If you want to discover what you really
want, look at what you've got. The situation in our homes, in our community,
in the U.S., in the world, is our responsibility. And if you want something
different, it is essential that you think, say and do what is necessary to
create that change. No one else can do this for you.
All around us are opportunities to make a difference. Life constantly sends
forth a barrage of wake-up calls--the hungry child, the neighbor with
cancer, the polluted air, the dying Fraser firs, airplanes crashing into the
World Trade Center, the Iraqi family terrified at the onslaught of American
We ignore life's wake-up calls at our own peril. Like the drunk who's in
denial, we may refuse to come to grips with reality. Like the pretense of a
loveless marriage, we may be unwilling to confront the truth. But if we do
not acknowledge the gift in even the most horrific event, discern its
meaning for us and adjust the course we are on, one thing is certain: When
the Universe wants to get our attention again, to awaken us as individuals
and a culture, we can count on the next wake-up call being even bigger than
the one that came before it.
Cynicism, denial and hopelessness
are merely forms of victimhood, placing the blame somewhere else for that
which ails us. Let me suggest another way:
radical responsibility. Rather than blaming others, this path requires us to
ask ourselves at every challenge, "How did I help create this situation and
what can I do to resolve it?" Sometimes this is not easy, especially when we
are certain that someone else is at fault. But doing so puts us, not others,
in charge of our lives.
We are all here for a purpose. We each have a mission to fulfill-to discover
our unique gifts and share them with those around us. You likely have a
vision for a better world, and when you fully live your purpose you help to
create that world. Some may call you an idealist or a dreamer; wear that
title with pride.
This is a time to surround yourself with those who nurture you, who
understand and respect your hopes and dreams. This is a time to be with
those who support you to walk your talk, to live your true values, not those
so-called values advanced by our would-be leaders, public relations firms
and the mainstream media.
Remember that everything happens for a reason. Yet even so, you are not
relieved of your duty to do what can be done to alleviate the pain and agony
of others. And you have a responsibility to deal with your own distress. For
while you cannot control what Life sends your way, you have complete control
over how you will respond to it. You can create suffering for yourself by
sitting around wishing things were other than they are; or you can do all
that you can do and feel the satisfaction of the results that you produce.
Pay attention to what's going on in your community and in the world. Don't
try to hide from or close yourself off to the horrors that are taking place.
When you see the starving children with bloated bellies, feel the hurt, feel
the anguish, feel the anger. And use your feelings as a call to action.
Quiet the chatter in your mind through meditation, prayer, contemplation or
a hike in the woods. Then listen. Each of us has a gift to offer the world,
and we become aware of how we might offer that gift when we get in touch
with our inner self. Perhaps you've always wanted to write a letter to your
local newspaper, but your mind's internal editor constantly heads you off at
the pass. Ignore your editor and write it anyway.
To make a difference in the world, become, as Gandhi says, the change you
want to see. If you want a peaceful world, explore inwardly and find that
peaceful part of yourself. Then rather than taking your anger and resentment
out on your coworker for something he did or didn't do, find a way to
forgive . . . him and yourself.
Since we are all in this together,
there really is no "enemy." We all want
to love and be loved. Any action that is not loving, any action that is
fear-based-abusive language, intolerant behavior, a violent act-is a cry for
love, whether it's coming from George W. Bush, from Saddam Hussein, from you
or from me.
Service to others can present the next step on our spiritual or
psychological path. If, for example, you offer a basket of food to a
destitute family in a condescending manner, your gift might feed the flesh,
but not the spirit-theirs or yours. And if you become conscious of this you
get an opportunity to understand the importance of humility and how your
well-being is inextricably intertwined with those whom you might serve.
We do make a difference-individually
and as a group. In fact, every loving thought, every prayer, every compassionate
action has a significant effect
on the world in which we live and the fabric of our existence. We might be
moved to handle our own demons-the judgments, anger and negative beliefs
that do not serve us. We might be moved to listen to and hold a friend who
is hurting. We might be moved to serve a meal at the local homeless shelter
or build a house with Habitat for Humanity. We might be moved to put our
freedom on the line by participating in civil disobedience to stop an unjust
war. We might be moved to gather in thousands, millions to say, "No more!"
Through the convergence of social movements-peace, civil rights, women's
rights, gay liberation, environmental and others-and personal consciousness
movements-Gestalt therapy, bodywork, experiential workshops, meditation, et
cetera-a new subculture has emerged 50 million strong. With a deep sense of
the sacred in nature, a commitment to spiritual and psychological growth and
a willingness to support ecological sustainability, members of this
subculture desire to live their lives congruent with their deepest values
Despite the fact that this entire social phenomenon has gone unnoticed by
the mainstream media, we are in the midst of an epic shift in American
culture. And while some may become dispirited at its pace or with the
violence and turmoil surrounding it, the transformation of our cultural
paradigm is unfolding just as it should. This groundswell of compassion,
sustainability and justice cannot be contained. And now is the time for
those who are willing to step forward in its support.
I'd like to close now by asking you to imagine that you have no concept of
childbirth. Imagine that you have walked into a room in which a mother is in
the midst of labor-with all the attendant wailing, straining and gnashing of
teeth. What would you think? What would your first reaction be?
Today we are participating in the birth of a new cultural paradigm. Our
world is in labor. And being a part of this chaotic and confusing process
can sometimes be scary, sometimes awe-inspiring. But have no doubt that an
irreversible trend is at hand-a movement toward greater love and respect for
one another, for all living things, for the entire earth. And, as always, we
have a choice: We can let fear get the best of us and surrender to despair;
or we can acknowledge ourselves for the role we play in this creation and
enjoy the ride.
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