Over the last several months the debate concerning “gay marriage”
has risen to new heights of passion and meanness. I suspect the basic
reason for this is centered around power and control issues. Those who
have defined marriage as the exclusive right of heterosexuals want to
continue to control the rules. It is a “Members (who meet the standard)
The modern marriage is less about two people who love each other deeply
and are committed to living in a way that will enhance that love. Rather,
it is about tax breaks, exemptions, property and legitimate sex. I wonder
which scenario God is more concerned about.
We live in a world where marriage vows
are usually not worth the paper they are written on. Yet, the idea of
a covenant is the total investment of those involved. I wonder if God
is more concerned about broken promises or covenants that call on people
to go deeper in their relationship than simple vows.
Finally, I wonder from a spiritual perspective if a God who by biblical
definition is both male and female is really concerned about the gender
identity of a couple who are willing to live in covenant with each other.
After all when Jesus was asked what the greatest commandment was — in
other words which commandment should be the basis of who and what we are
— his reply was, “Love the Lord your God with all your heart and
with all you soul and with all your mind. This is the first and greatest
commandment and the second is like it: Love your neighbor as yourself.
All the law and prophets hang on these two commandments.”
If these commandments are where it begins and ends, I believe our God,
the God of Jesus Christ, is far more interested in covenants of love regardless
of gender identification rather than traditional marriage which does not
have a hint of these two commandments.
Editor-in-Chief of Whosoever and Founding and Senior Pastor of Gentle Spirit Christian Church of Atlanta, where Whosoever Founder and Editor Emeritus Rev. Candace Chellew was ordained, Rev. Paul M. Turner grew up in suburban Chicago and was ordained by the Universal Fellowship of Metropolitan Community Churches in 1989. He and his husband Bill have lived in metro Atlanta since 1994.