Seeds of Hope

Can Bisexuals Be Monogamous?


[Posted on February 14, 1999]

Dear Rev. Turner:

It is clear that the Biblical pattern for sex is life long monogamy. What is a bisexual to do? How can she remain true to what she is and have a life long commitment to only one person when one person, no matter the gender, is after all, only one gender?

Just curious,

Doug


Dear Doug,

Actually, I guess I have always, as a gay male, been a little jealous of the bisexual community. I mean, after all, with their comfort level they certainly have a much wider and deeper pool of people from which to meet the "right one".

I don't think it is a just a matter of being true to a "gender". The issue, it seems to me, is being true to a person. You follow and maintain a covenant relationship with one person at a time. I might have an eye for other men, for their bodies or personalities, but my commitment is to the one for whom I declared my love. I don't think it is any different for a bisexual. As I said earlier, the gender with whom they make that commitment could be one of two, while heterosexuals or homosexuals are limited to just one gender.

God bless,

Pastor Paul


Rev. Turner is Sr. Pastor at Gentle Spirit Christian Church in Atlanta, Georgia.

If you are seeking guidance and pastoral care on your journey to fullness as a gay, lesbian, bisexual or transgendered person, please contact Pastor Paul directly at pastorpaul@whosoever.org.