Legal recognition and celebration
of same-sex marriage is far more revolutionary than just the passage of
a few state and national laws.
The bonds ("bondage") of matrimony cry out for a fresh look at the
ancient human tradition of marriage, which is based on the same
foundations as such time-honored practices as child abuse, slavery,
terrorism, war, and tyranny.
The "Defense of Marriage Act" could more accurately be called "The
Defense of Ignorance and Injustice Act." Legions of abusive religious
forces are being marshaled to do battle against the GLBT struggle for
human and civil rights for same-sex couples. Recent e-mail telling of
the mounting fundamentalist religion opposition to "gay marriage" has
reached a new "shrill level" of emotional misinformed rhetoric and media
The emerging Anti-Gay Marriage
Industry is becoming even more politically active, well financed, misinformed,
and aggressive than the "Ex-Gay" Industry. Militant "anti-gay marriage" religious
organizations and political action groups are multiplying and growing at
rate. Literature attacking gay marriage is pouring into millions of
homes through books, newsletters, television and radio offers, e-mail
campaigns, and every other available channel of media saturation.
James Dobson of "Focus on the Family" recently
appeared on national television in an interview with Larry King and gave
a vast glut of
anti-gay misinformation and lies to the entire nation. We are being
smothered in an avalanche of homophobic misinformation and distortions
of the truth that is darkening the sky and moving like a new threatening
apocalyptic cloud of doom overshadowing our entire world.
Rescuing Marriage from Abusive Religion
John Shelby Spong explored a
revolutionary new direction in biblical
studies in "Rescuing the Bible from Fundamentalism" in 1991. Bruce
Bawer further extended this revolution in 1997 with his "Stealing Jesus:
How Fundamentalism Betrays Christianity." My friend Clayton Sullivan in
2002 recently moved the revolution forward with his "Rescuing Jesus from
Rescuing marriage from fundamentalism
and religious misinformation is a formidable challenge. Marriage customs
and expectations throughout the
world are firmly entrenched in every social system and in the human
psyche. Breaking into traditional marriage systems with fresh insight
and honest new directions of freedom and human responsibilities has
seemed to be truly a "mission impossible."
No matter how difficult the challenge, the truth is always worth
fighting for and human dignity and self-esteem are worth saving.
Challenging Religious Assumptions
The biblical view of marriage
is an extension of male dominance and is "set in stone" in the Ten Commandments that protect a man's
absolute right to own and control his possessions, his wife, his children,
animals, and his slaves. How this obvious fact has escaped the notice
of fundamentalist religion is a great tribute to the brainwashing
effectiveness of traditional religion throughout human history.
Modern marriage is a contradiction of all of the holy principles that
legalistic religion claims to support the anti-gay marriage juggernaut
that is crushing everything in its path to victory over the human rights
and loving relationships of GLBT people. Take a close look at what is
happening. The accelerating cultural war over gay marriage is
dominating religious, political and social life now far more than any
other issue since the beginning of the GLBT freedom revolution at
Stonewall in 1969. This is a long-term war that we cannot afford to
Shaking the Foundations
The obvious fact that same-sex couples can and do enter into loving
committed lifelong relationships is challenging and shaking the
foundations of abusive religion and unjust social customs and systems.
All of our biblical research reaches one clear conclusion: Homosexuals
are not an abomination to God, but wounding and destroying homosexuals
in the name of religion is.
The foundations are shaking and crumbling because they are inadequate
and need to be replaced by realistic honest foundations that are built
on logic and factual information and not on religious mythology and
medieval imaginations. Foundations crack and collapse because they
cannot bear the weight of logical, objective, realistic, practical new
directions for human life into maturity that truly includes and affirms
every individual as having equal value.
Christianity has not failed, because nobody has really tried it yet!
What has failed is the bogus religious use of Jesus by abusive religion
to raise money, build great material empires, exercise secular and
political power and deny the basic human rights that Jesus celebrated,
taught, demonstrated and died for.
Jesus has not failed. The misinformed self-righteous abusive religious
leaders who falsely claim to follow Jesus have failed. The traditional
churches have failed. The current educational systems of religious
institutions have failed. You and I have failed to the extent that we
have taken our eyes off Jesus to follow and sustain our own agendas and
to please and satisfy other people.
Will the Real Jesus Please Stand Up!
Religion has worked hard for centuries to obscure the real Jesus of the
Gospels in order to maintain control over people and to build and
sustain the Empire. The living Spirit of Jesus, however, is free and
available to liberate you from religious oppression and misinformation.
Church architecture, stained glass,
statues, paintings, rituals, ceremonies, costumes and doctrines have obscured
the real Jesus and
created fanciful images that please the senses but fail to communicate
reality and truth. Break out of the box! You do not find God in the "box church" but
in yourself wherever you are and in all things God has made. The heavens still
declare the glory of God and the firmament
demonstrates the work of God. Jesus made it clear that you see God in
other people or you do not see God at all.
Rescuing Marriage from Oblivion
One of the primary objectives of GLBT Christians should be the salvation
of marriage from oblivion. By fighting for the human right to marry,
same-sex couples are rescuing marriage, not destroying it! Gay marriage
is a giant step in the direction of following Jesus in accepting and
affirming all people as having equal value before God. The human
institutions of our culture identify themselves by who they leave out.
Jesus identified his people by who is included, not by who is left out.
Don't give up on gay marriage.
Institutional Christianity will never be truly Christian until GLBT people
are fully included at every level and
in every activity of the life of the churches.
Rembert Truluck is a native of Clinton, South Carolina, and was
ordained as a Baptist minister in 1953 at the age of 19. In 1973, Dr. Truluck
became Director of Recruitment and Placement in Church Careers and Professor
of Religion at the Baptist College of Charleston, SC, where he remained
until March, 1981, when he was outed as gay, resigned and move to Atlanta,
where he became involved in the Metropolitan Community Church and began
the research, ministry and teaching that has led to his Web
site and to
his book, Steps
To Recovery From Bible Abuse.
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